tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post1066428696633233719..comments2023-10-24T00:26:42.489-07:00Comments on Yarni Gras!: Mommy hack, again.Yarni Gras!http://www.blogger.com/profile/03028237893356674106noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-22276089466475570042009-03-01T01:07:00.000-08:002009-03-01T01:07:00.000-08:00What timing! I just had the discussion with my 7 ...What timing! I just had the discussion with my 7 year old how it's not really fair to expect mommy to do all the jobs in the house.....that everyone needs to do their part....and all that. Perceptively he pointed out that dad doesn't.......so I'm thinking....I need to find a way to fix that too:) Now if I could only find a way to make that happen HMMMM It sounds like your kids are doing just fine to BTW.LittleRedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954384288938803824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-76758930217395375642009-02-21T07:39:00.000-08:002009-02-21T07:39:00.000-08:00We never had chores as children and we turned out ...We never had chores as children and we turned out just fine. Don't listen to other people. Do what's right for you and your family.<BR/><BR/>Why should someone else tell you how to raise your kids? Sounds like you're doing great!Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09132687955890418093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-24540037206679599862009-02-21T06:59:00.000-08:002009-02-21T06:59:00.000-08:00Good for you for going your own way, Val! You're k...Good for you for going your own way, Val! You're kids sound like mature well adjusted people already! Hey, my parents never gave us "chores" ...we just did what was expected of us to help around the house and we all turned out fine!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06937487931128861222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-68373983594818655912009-02-20T23:06:00.000-08:002009-02-20T23:06:00.000-08:00Val, do life your way! My grandchildren know ever...Val, do life your way! My grandchildren know everyday when they go down to the basement to play games, do homework or watch television that if their laundry hamper is full of clean clothes, to take them upstairs and put them away. They know on Saturdays to vacuum their bedrooms. They help anytime they are asked and they receive $10 per month. They can earn extra sometimes and the can loose money sometimes. We don't call them chores, we call them responsibilities. Now, where did I put that list??Quiltingrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08885973879588867172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-18540416899689636272009-02-19T21:43:00.000-08:002009-02-19T21:43:00.000-08:00Val, I hate it when people try to guilt me into ra...Val, I hate it when people try to guilt me into raising my kids "their way". I agree with these other comments that you did the right thing in ripping up the list. I say it's always, always best to listen to your own heart when it has something to do with your own individual family. you know your kids and what they respond to. maybe the farm girl responds best to 'chores' where your family responds best to loveing encouragement. keep doing what you know is best for your little sweeties!<BR/>MissyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-60948967202728782542009-02-19T21:35:00.000-08:002009-02-19T21:35:00.000-08:00you go mommy!way i see it is...if your kids alread...you go mommy!<BR/>way i see it is...if your kids already do it and do it because they love you and WANT to...nuff said!susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17999232957480033416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-57390671129769389492009-02-19T20:22:00.000-08:002009-02-19T20:22:00.000-08:00I agree with the kids....... It is always easier t...I agree with the kids....... It is always easier to do those things because you WANT not because you HAVE to. I would have ripped it up too!!! At least you tried...........Giabella Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17416426574433140701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-81711842664983511752009-02-18T16:59:00.000-08:002009-02-18T16:59:00.000-08:00LOLLOLTerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10678994674232375651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-35562989013100811932009-02-18T13:10:00.000-08:002009-02-18T13:10:00.000-08:00I'm a rotten Mom. We don't have an actual chore li...I'm a rotten Mom. We don't have an actual chore list. My kids know their responsibilities and when they need to have them done. One time we mentioned the word chore and everything went crazy. We had meltdowns all around. Once we skipped the word chore, everyone calmed back down. I guess "chore" is a dirty word for kids.<BR/><BR/>We don't give the kids allowances either. The big kids have jobs and take care of their basic needs. Our youngest (9) earns "brownie points" towards purchases. When he is extra good or does extra things to help out, he yells "Brownie Point"! If I agree we discuss what he did right (or wrong) and figure out how it works towards a reward in the future.Robin (RsIslandCrafts)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06875986169322073281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-73005087351347314072009-02-18T10:27:00.000-08:002009-02-18T10:27:00.000-08:00You have GREAT kids do not let others talk you out...You have GREAT kids do not let others talk you out of that!!! Good job ripping the list up!Zoëhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03772657458089993304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-9685673921987656942009-02-18T05:59:00.000-08:002009-02-18T05:59:00.000-08:00Well, I guess I am a Mommy hack too. My daughter ...Well, I guess I am a Mommy hack too. My daughter doesn't have a list and probably never will. However, she is always willing to help, often does "chores" w/o me even asking, and is an all-around great kid.<BR/>Congrats to you for tearing up the list!Tammy "SweetT"https://www.blogger.com/profile/12526552828251116437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-42406404691502543462009-02-17T17:55:00.000-08:002009-02-17T17:55:00.000-08:00You melted my heart with your post. I never gave m...You melted my heart with your post. I never gave my kids a to do list and they aren't in jail or anything bad. What happened to, Ask and you shall recieve? Tell this farm person to "go suck a egg"........just kidding! Hugs, TerriTerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10678994674232375651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-59980586500862428542009-02-17T15:43:00.000-08:002009-02-17T15:43:00.000-08:00I love this post! In looking back, it just seemed...I love this post! In looking back, it just seemed too hard to get my kids to do chores and follow lists. But, hey...they all turned out okay. The other day, I noticed my daughter had a "honey do" list on her fridge for her new husband. I asked her how that was working (maybe I should try it too). She said he never really looks at the list. I have always found that nagging works best!!<BR/><BR/>Stephanie<BR/><BR/>P.S. I just received your wonderful package! Thank you so much!!! I LOVE them! I posted a picture on my blog. Thanks again!!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12510159089743494158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-44552001028221866732009-02-17T14:26:00.000-08:002009-02-17T14:26:00.000-08:00Oh Val, I could never see you as an enforcer like ...Oh Val, I could never see you as an enforcer like that. Your way to sweet and it always shows in all the photographs how happy and well adjusted your babies are. You are always sharing the wonderful things that you and your children do. You are one of the best moms that I know of. You spend loving time and energy with them. They are learning just fine how to be adults from you. You and the children are always doing things for your community. They never ask for anything in return, just a sweet thank you. Your children are learning how and what it is to be a good adult, just by your love and gentle guidance. They mind, they want to be with you, they even get upset with you. Your children are lucky that they can say how they feel and you truely listen like a good parent. I give you big kudos for trying a different way ...but like they say if it ain't broke don't fix it. I am appalled that someone would stick their nose into your childrens lives like that anyway.... Give that person my what for would you!!!! Well my sweet friend your children are on a great path to be wonderful adults. Continue to love them, guide them, play with them, and most of all pray with them. You are a wonderful mom... I wish I had one like you!!!!<BR/>Hugs sweet friend!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09296327130296663275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-29804159388037880962009-02-17T12:42:00.000-08:002009-02-17T12:42:00.000-08:00I would have ripped it up also - I feel the same w...I would have ripped it up also - I feel the same way as you do and my son and daughter grew up to be responsible adults - one is an engineer and the other a teacher. I think when they do something because they love you, it means so much more. If they do it because you are standing there with an iron fist, they will resent it and you. Remember Val, your kids grow up way too fast - treasure every minute as you will miss them dearly when they make their own way into the world. You are doing great - just look at your two angels! You have a happy family and that is #1.annemariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07526668349590879593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-66133664118755488332009-02-17T09:34:00.000-08:002009-02-17T09:34:00.000-08:00I give my kids chocolate cake for breakfast.And, i...I give my kids chocolate cake for breakfast.<BR/><BR/>And, if the kids are happy with doing things for you it's good enough. I leave the utensil basket from the dishwasher out and wait for one of the kids to put the utensils away. One or the other - or both at the same time - do it by the end of the day. They're happy because they think I 'forgot' it there and they are helping me - and they get a quarter. I guess I'm as bad as you are & I'm so happy to be in your bad company - BethBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08307894551492750682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-55530883953161156342009-02-17T08:47:00.000-08:002009-02-17T08:47:00.000-08:00Your post made me so happy and so sad at the same ...Your post made me so happy and so sad at the same time. I really HATE it when people tell you how to parent or go about your life! Now granted, I am not a parent, but there are plenty of kids in my life! My husband and I are true believers that you do what works for your family. There is no need to drill your kids to do chores if they do them already. I cant believe how insightful and honest your daughter is. I am so glad that she felt she could be honest with you and that you listened to her...isnt that whats important in life...not lists!Sarah Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09502490919127566741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-83188390239334170512009-02-17T05:44:00.000-08:002009-02-17T05:44:00.000-08:00I never had a list of chores. As a child, I often ...I never had a list of chores. As a child, I often had friends tell me that I was very lucky and that they wished my mum was their mum. As I saw how their parents treated them, I grew to love mine even more. I learnt to be respectful, disciplined, and love my fellow man, all without a list. I love and respect my parents for the way they brought me up. I'm sure yours will too! You did the right thing tearing up that paper!<BR/>Manda. xxmandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18333704467312126616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-11909521684082550082009-02-17T04:53:00.000-08:002009-02-17T04:53:00.000-08:00I don't think the list is important. What is impo...I don't think the list is important. What is important is they have responsibilities in the family and it sounds like they do!sisjulie1https://www.blogger.com/profile/00258537618420637071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2781009593981331972.post-87612312069772836432009-02-17T04:46:00.000-08:002009-02-17T04:46:00.000-08:00Your answer is in your post. They do it because th...Your answer is in your post. They do it because they want to and they love you. Come to think of it, we did not have a list of chores either for our kids. In fact never called it chores. They just knew the sooner we got the stuff done - like dishes, garbage, pets, picking up the yard, etc the sooner we were free to go and do other stuff. Of course had to ask or tell more than once sometimes, but that was a lesson in itself. With 3 kids under 5 years old, ours turned out pretty well to be loving, responsible, hard working, and great to be around. I wouldn't have changed anything!! Sounds like yall have a great track record! Enjoy your family!!ginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06663102392501972394noreply@blogger.com